& Pragmatic Poetry
Biography becomes Biology
Energy Bank Account
Harness the Power of Questions
Literature on Innocence & Imagination
Happiness is Free
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Better than Humour?
Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow
You are what you think. The set of work below enables humanity to rise to happiness/health/wealth/peace/freedom/love/intelligence/creativity/productivity.Enlightenment is man's emergence from his self-imposed immaturity. Immaturity is the inability to use one's understanding without guidance from another. This immaturity is self-imposed when you have the ability but not the courage.
from Jill Batura / Carolynn Myss
At the University of Toronto's Athletic Centre I took a great course: "Energy Anatomy" led by Jill Batura. Below are my notes from the class, and text she emailed to me.
Biography becomes Biology
Energy Bank Account
energy leaks - stop financing that thought
mourning no longer serves a purpose
what thoughts do I feel "I could let go if only ____ [she would understand x / I could understand why x / ]
consciousness = meta-thought
medical intuition = sensing need for this person to contribute to personal
no longer the way you are wired
truth into which you are plugged.
transform cellular memory.
re-write the code that manages your biology
in physical form you are powerless, in energetic form you are powerful.
Q: relinquish illusion of control, trust divine purpose.
Q: I thought I had learned this lesson. Why is this experience repeating?
It is wonderful how much time good people spend fighting the devil. If they
would only expend the same amount of energy loving their fellow men, the devil
would die in his own tracks of ennui.
by Jill Batura &/or Carolynn Myss
Life Force is what makes us vital. It gives us:
the Juice we need,
the Engine to run,
the Fire to ignite,
the Drive to get things done
the Inspiration to be creative
To Indians this is called Prana
To the Chinese it is called Chi
To the Japanese it is Ki/Qi
To Christians it is Grace or the Holy Spirit
To others it is Vitality
Whether you see this E as coming from the universe, God, or another source is not the issue; the point is that this E feeds our body, mind and spirit.
Picture 100 circuits of energy coming in through the top of
The Circuits fuel your:
|Everything you do|
|All that you are|
|Your whole life!|
When we invest energy into negative thoughts,
When we dwell on past incidents,
When we allow ourselves to be triggered in certain situations,
When we spend time with people who drain our energy…
We then have to take a loan from our cell tissue,
the E that is supposed to be keeping our cells thriving and alive.
We then finance the dead of our day with the life energy of our day.
When you feel yourself being triggered and you have a
negative thought, what’s really happening? Power is leaving
your body, connecting to that thought and you are leaking energy.
When you say something negative to another person, energy is leaving your body and connecting to that person.
SELF-ESTEEM - CAROLINE MYSS
as summarised by Jillian Batura
[and further edited by me]
Self-esteem is the ability to manage thoughts based on self-intuition.
It's about facilitating inner guidance as a spiritual process of empowerment.
Were talking about "high voltage spiritual self-esteem"
Not the kind that says be proud of the way you look and dress - that's fine, that's important, cover that base, but you can cover that base in an hour: you take a shower, put on a nice outfit, and you're done, you've completed that basic level of self-respect and social self-esteem.
It's a whole other thing to say, "I have got to become strong enough to face my shadow, to realize my insecurities, to start listening to my inner guidance and have the guts to become empowered".
Who represents self-esteem to you?
Is it the chatty type?
The bubbly, outgoing social-butterfly?
The confident speaker?
The type that can laugh from their belly?
Or is it the driven, overachiever?
Or the person who has balance?
The type who at the end of the day can just shut off school or work?
The type who takes self-time daily and still finds time for friends and family?
What kinds of people do you find intriguing/fascinating?
Are you mismanaging your self deliberately?
Do you feel you need to maintain chaos in your life?
Why are you afraid of your highest potential?
We're not talking about a job here, we're talking about all that your spirit can be
Are you afraid of what your life might look like if you become empowered?
And who in your life will not applaud your being empowered?
Do you really want to be filled with the kind of self-empowerment that you think you want? Or would you rather read about why you don't have it and have that feel like a path to self-empowerment?
So many people enjoy reading about why they don't have self-esteem because they feel this gives them justification for keeping it low, as if reading about it makes them feel they are making a difference. Reading about why you have low self-esteem does not improve your self-empowerment unless you're willing to turn the book over and take action
Be mindful all the time. It's a discipline and practice
Why did I say this?
What's motivating me?
What is my private agenda?
Why does this person make me feel this way?
Why is this making me nervous?
Why do I feel insecure around you?
Why do I need to make that person feel insecure?
Look at why you make the choices you do. Choices include:
Why am I choosing to feel negative about this?
Why am I choosing to let this opportunity go by?
Why am I choosing not to speak up in this group?
Why am I choosing not to answer this question correctly?
What type of person do you go after when you're feeling bad about yourself?
Is it a family member or significant other?
Do you prey (and that's P R E Y) on certain types?
Do you ever chip away at another person's self-esteem in order to maintain an authority position over them, keeping another person disempowered so you can have the upper hand?
When you feel someone's intimidating you, do you talk behind his or her back or gossip? Why do you do that? And are you willing to change that?
Are you able to go up to someone who is being negative and say:
"You know, you're generating a lot of negativity, and
rather than talk behind your back
I'm going to give you the grace to say it to your face,
because I care about you and your health,
and I care about everyone you interact with today."?
Do you have what it takes to be an empowered person and turn off that insecurity when it starts in you?
You can't develop self-esteem until you figure out:
1) Why you don't have it
2) How you compensate for this?
Which brings us to the next question:
Whose approval do you need in life and why?
Your parents, classmates, colleagues, boyfriend/girlfriend/partner/spouse?
Where do you feel less than others and with whom?
Who overwhelms you?
What type of person wipes you out?
Who drains you and why?
What intimidates you about others?
What are those areas of your life that people get to you?
This is different for different people:
Someone's outfit; Someone's talent; Someone's influence
What are your core issues?
If I said, "What are the areas of your life that bring you down, what two examples first flash in your mind?"
Does everybody have the same clout to bring you down or is it just certain people?
It takes a lot of self to look at your shadow
How often do you hear someone say, "I am so talented that I can hardly stay in my body. I have to get off this chair and do something about this, b/c I am exploding today with brilliance and I got to take this for a walk"? I just don't meet too many people in that department.
How do you become empowered?
How do you develop intuition?
How do you heal from burnout, illness, injury, allergies and other limiting conditions?
Have the courage to introspect rather than point the blame. Face your shadow! Say "I must look at what I don't want to see about myself, b/c unless I start there, nothing is going to change."
(It would be so much easier to say "here's the exercise sit down and close your eyes, breathe deeply like so, say Om and chant, now meditate on that." Meditate on what? What would you be meditating on other than the floor? Will it relax you? Sure. Will it reduce stress? Likely. But will it actually develop your self-esteem? Only in the respect you have chosen to take some time for your self.) What you really need to do for true results, is to take one aspect of your shadow and one by one knock it down.
Do I have any jealousy in me?
Do I have any envy in me?
Do I have any feelings of resentment?
You need to be honest with yourself.
What are the parts of yourself that you don't like?
You have to know your own road map.
You can start with your physical self. That's very cosmetic, very western. What you look like (body image, fitness level, face, haircut, etc.). But eventually you need to go to the deeper things:
What is it you don't like about yourself?
What intimidates you?
Where do you lack courage?
Can you face how deep your shadow is in terms of
what your fears give you permission to do?
Do you put blame on other people or on situations?
Give up the blame in order to take responsibility for your life. Hold yourself accountable. No longer say this is the fault of so and so or such and such. Give it up.
Granted, some people have had terrible experiences. All right, AND!
How long do you want to live a life where that's the theme?
Give up the could of/should of/would haves.
Sabotaging self-esteem is now an art form.
The majority of choices you make do not enhance your own empowerment and you spend the rest of your day compensating for anger in that direction.
Next time you catch yourself thinking could of/should of/would of, realize you are consciously choosing to disempower yourself. Own the fact/admit it.
What disempowers you in your life?
Who do you lose power around?
Are you negotiating your power in order to get approval from another person or group?
You have to ask yourself,
"Where am I disempowered and who do I go to in order to fill in my power deficits?"
Your first instinct is to think you can stick up for yourself and fight your own battles. That's playground definition of self-esteem. Being empowered doesn't mean the ability to tell another person off.
When you hold yourself in esteem you just radiate your respect for yourself.
How many people will say "I love it that your coming to the point where you can challenge my opinions?"
Meditation has many benefits, but it can't develop your self-esteem. How do you develop self-esteem?
It is a step-by-step brick by brick process in which you target your deficits.
If someone says their finances are a wreck, can you imagine a banker saying, "Just visualize"?
The smart banker would say:
1) Let's see where you are losing $
2) Where do you give responsibility to others for making financial decisions
3) Show me your deficits, in order to see the step by step pattern created
I negotiate my self around _________
In the presence of ___________, I don't always say what I want to say.
I lose power around________
Fill in the blank, who?
It won't be everybody.
You don't lose power around your friends - you're friends with them because they make you feel good.
You lose power with the people you work with because blending power with the people you work with is the name of the game.
There will always be a power struggle in the work place as there will always be competition.
As long as you need to compete you need to take a look at your self-esteem.
You could say healthy competition exists, well yeah, but do you know how healthy you have to be to have healthy competition?: Your whole motivation has got to be to push yourself and not care about your image, reputation or influence.
The cosmetic department counts on the fact that you don't have self-esteem, they bank on it.
When you eat something you crave, do you say, "I really shouldn't" or the ridiculous mantra "this is just a treat"? Do you think this decalorizes it? Such statements are supposed to make the self feel better? If you're going to eat something, enjoy it. What possible good comes from tormenting oneself with guilt ridden self-talk?
When you see a woman with thin high heels, tight-fitted skirt with a high side-slit and a red leather crop-top showing off her cleavage and wash-board stomach, does this get to you? Iif so, why?
Can you say to yourself good for her to have guts to wear what she felt like wearing?
Or are you having feelings of jealousy, envy, resentment or disgust?
If so, is it because you lack the self-esteem to wear such an outfit…would you fear judgment from others, would you feel dirty, and why?
Is it because your parents or society or someone in your past taught you to repress your sexuality and wear conservative clothes?
Or is because you are insecure about your body shape and too embarrassed to flaunt your curves?
The journey of self-esteem is your ability to take charge of your spirit
You need to get the respect of your spirit
Stop blaming the world, figure out where you have given away your spirit;
your SELF has a history with you
******Next time someone is getting to you, face the type of situation which that person represents, not the person. The person represents a certain situation.
Some people visualize a boundary to screen out negativity; don't screen out the person, figure out what it's showing you.
Figure out if it's showing you that your vulnerable right now,
Or that you're leaking E in a certain area,
Or that you're being triggered by people who bring out jealousy or envy in you
Pull out of your memory one situation with which you felt powerless or lacking in influence. Put that in front of you, take a breath and realize you are now so much more powerful than that memory.
Are you manipulative? If yes, what's your style? Tactics? How do you behave?
Think about someone you've manipulated. Are you willing to change the rules?
Self-esteem is not about dominating the relationship,
Pay attention to yourself:
Why am I saying this?
Why am I doing this?
Hold yourself accountable for every time you sabotage an opportunity to speak up. Every time you don't listen to your intuition, take note.
Stomach pain linked to low self-esteem:
When you get a stomach-ache, let me locate low self-esteem biologically - it's in your solar plexus. The energetic way to soothe someone's stomach ache is to compliment them because this gives them self-esteem. That soft and soothing E goes into their solar plexus.
Self esteem is the most healing treasures…"Come on it's not so bad, you can do this, I know you can" and the stomach begins to calm down
But if I say "You can do better than that" or " I am very disappointed with you" this is like taking a knife and cutting at their gut, so the stomach churns
What's really going on? The person receiving the negative energy feels he/she is about to become disempowered.
At this point you tell yourself that you have enough esteem to direct yourself in the next moment to act on your highest good.
Quotes appropriate to Emotional Intelligence
* Learn to think in positive affirmations. Affirmations are any statements you
make. Too often we think in negative affirmations. Negative affirmations only
create more of what you say you don't want. Saying, I hate my job, will get you
nowhere. Declaring, I now accept a wonderful new job, will open the channels in
your consciousness to create that.
* Now I can wake up and say, "Good morning, God!" rather than "Good God, it's morning!" - unknown
* If you think you're happy, you are. If you think you're wise, you're not. - unknown
* For many, negative thinking is a habit, which over time, becomes an addiction... A lot of people suffer from this disease because negative thinking is addictive to each of the Big Three -- the mind, the body, and the emotions. If one doesn't get you, the others are waiting in the wings. --Peter McWilliams
* Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. --Carl Jung
Harness the Power of Questions
from "Unleash the Artist Within"
#2 of 28 lessons in a 4-week online workshop.
Bob Baker, http://PromoteYourCreativity.com/
We've all heard how important it is to communicate effectively with other people. ... Unfortunately, most people fail to realize that what's even more important is the way you communicate with yourself. We've already covered positive attitudes and expanding your range of possibility thinking. But what we haven't touched on are the specific patterns you've developed in your mind to make sense of the world around you.
One of the most essential ways you process information and form opinions is through the specific questions you ask yourself on a regular basis. ... Anthony Robbins points out that ... when you ask yourself a question, your brain assumes the question is valid and goes to work in search of an answer. When the answer is given, it becomes part of your view of the world and your place in it. The sad truth, though, is that too many people ask themselves faulty, failure-inducing questions.
How many times have you asked yourself, "Why does this always happen to me?" or "How can I be so stupid?" or "Why do I always end up on the short end of the stick?"
Ask yourself questions like these - especially when you're in a frustrated, emotionally degraded state - and your mind will look for answers. And most likely those answers will come screaming at you: "Because you're an idiot, because you have no talent, because the only way you'll ever make it in this business is to be a gofer getting coffee for other people."
Needless to say, this is not an effective way to communicate with yourself. The better approach is to ask positive, constructive questions. A couple of examples are "What can I learn from this experience?" or "How will I do things more effectively next time?" With upbeat, quality questions, your computer-like brain gives you answers that are infinitely more valuable to your success and well-being.
So the next time you're tempted to ponder a defeating thought, turn the question around. Here is a short list of weak questions and more powerful alternatives:
Weak: "How come I'm not landing any decent paying jobs this month?"
Powerful: "What can I do today to improve my personal income this month?"
Weak: "Why does my local arts scene throw up so many obstacles to
Powerful: "What can I do to make the arts community in my city better?"
Weak: "Why is it so expensive to get this creative project off the
Powerful: "What options have I overlooked in getting this project done on a smaller budget?"
Monitor the quality of the questions you ask yourself on a daily basis. This may be one of the best things you can do to adjust your attitude and get yourself on track. Start to ask better questions and you'll soon find yourself a lot further down the road to creative expression and accomplishment.
"The days of asking myself debilitating questions are over. Starting now, in good times and bad, I pose positive questions and reap the benefits of finding creative solutions and profitable ideas. In fact, I'll start by asking a good one now: What steps can I take today to move myself closer to my ultimate goal of creative success?"
Today's Action Step
Take your journal with you everywhere you go today. When you catch yourself asking a negative, self-defeating question, write it down.
Then rewrite the question, turn it on its head and transform it into a question that empowers you -- a question that puts the focus on finding solutions, not voicing empty complaints.
... So start listening to yourself ... and transform yourself into a positive-questions powerhouse.
"The most efficient and ecological way to increase 'quality of life' is via the imagination."
"You know it's a fiction, but that every model of reality is an abstraction and therefore a fiction, so you choose to believe it, and so it works."
links/embedded: Literature on Innocence & Imagination, including Billy Budd & The Neverending Story, Happiness is Free
I feared that the "Innate Passion to Create Joy" me was my false self, a "The lady doth protest too much" projection/denial, and hence was my false self, and that my true self was miserable and lazy. Then I recognized that my false self clings to the idea of being limited, constructs and maintains that identity, and if I let go and stopped fighting, my true self would appear - unlimited, happy, creative, dynamic.
When I found she was not in love with me, my happiness was lost. Despite my idea of Pragmatic Poetry, my happiness was dependent on her loving me. I had not learned from my own medicine, or else I had demonstrated it fails.
Reality isn't what it used to be.
Reified social construction.
The only way to heaven is through hell. When you see that your hell is
a matter of your mind, you are freed forevermore to choose healthy
interpretations, to live in Heaven. - me
You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humor in anything - even poverty - you can survive it.
Life is a tragedy for those who feel, but a comedy to those who
I refute it thus! - Samuel Johnson kicks a rock.
Give love and unconditional acceptance to those you encounter, and notice
Creativity means believing you have greatness.
There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
Happiness is something that you are, and it comes from the way you think.
Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.
Dyer's First Principle: Dyer's second principle:
You are always a valuable, worthwhile human being, not because anybody says so, not because you're successful, not because you make a lot of money, but because you decide to believe it and for no other reason.
He says that success is not a destination that you reach. Success is something that exists inside of you and that you bring to everything you do. It's not something you go and get; it's something you make a decision to be and demonstrate through your actions.
Chad Taylor, guitarist for the band Live, once told a writer for Bam magazine that he developed his passion for playing music in the midst of negative people who told him that he couldn't make a living playing music. "The day I decided not to go to college and to be a songwriter for the rest of my life instead, that was the day I became successful. It didn't take three or four million records to make me successful."
Marketing consultant Dan Kennedy refers to this attitude as "self-appointment." Instead of waiting for approval, permission, a degree, a promotion or reaching some predetermined level ("Most people wait around for someone else to recognize them, to give them permission to be successful")
Dyer's second principle:
Successful people make money. It's not that people who make money become
successful, but that successful people attract money. They bring success to what
Is it just a defence mechanism? - my saying that I don't want to make money.
* Emotional sickness is avoiding reality at any cost. Emotional health is
facing reality at any cost. --M. Scott Peck
* It's hard to face reality when reality has many faces. --Tony Follari
Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can
dream it, you can make it so.
* Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the action stems the dream
again; and this inter-dependence produces the highest form of living.
--Anias Nin (1903-1977)
* Some people live in a dream world; some face reality; and some turn their dreams into reality. - me
As far as the laws of mathematics refer to reality, they are not certain; and
as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality.
Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.
Don't dwell on reality; it will only keep you from greatness.
--Rev. Randall R. McBride, Jr.
It may be that our role on this planet is not to worship God, but to create
--Arthur C. Clarke
What we think, we become.
--Buddha (B.C.E. 568-488)
The illusion of freedom in America will continue as long as it's profitable
to continue the illusion. At the point where the illusion becomes too expensive
to maintain, they will just take down the scenery, they will pull back the
curtains, they will move the tables and chairs out of the way, and you will see
the brick wall at the back of the theatre.
--Frank Zappa, 1977
Frances Moore Lappé posed the question of why societies finally abandoned the
divine right of monarchies, she found the reason was that people simply stopped
believing in it. Ideas have real power, much greater than political or economic
structures. It’s what I like to call the B.S. factor – belief systems.
And everywhere you turn these days, belief systems are crashing and burning like a meteor shower. From Enron and Arthur Andersen to the Catholic church and even major-league baseball, people’s faith in institutions is disintegrating. People in this country are realizing that we have the best government money can buy. - Kenny [Ausabel], Bioneers.org
dada guy - poor fiction
Seven Habits of Highly-Effective People
& Other Stephen Covey Ideas
* Management works in the system. Leadership works on the system.
* The environment you fashion out of your thoughts, your beliefs, your ideals, your philosophy is the only climate you will ever live in. The key is in not spending time, but in investing it.
* People who exercise their freedom day after day, little by little, expand that freedom. People who do not will find that it withers until they are literally 'being lived.' They are acting out scripts written by parents, associates, and society.
* We are limited but we can push back the borders of our limitations.
* Starve problems, feed opportunities. (adapted)
* Role modeling is the most basic responsibility of parents. Parents are handing life's scripts to their children, scripts that in all likelihood will be acted out for the rest of the children's lives.
* Private victories precede public victories.
How do you define success?:
[[[[[[[--me, not Covey.]]]]]]]]
First Things First:
* One of the best ways to educate our hearts is to look at our interaction with other people, because our relationships with others are fundamentally a reflection of our relationship with ourselves.
* Some people have called feedback the breakfast of champions. But it isn't the breakfast, it's the lunch. Vision is the breakfast. Self-correction the dinner.
Norman Vincent Peale
* To go fast, grow slowly.
* Look for the plus sign. To make progress in any difficult situation, you have to start with what's right about it and build on that.
* People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.
* Believe it is possible to solve your problem. Tremendous things happen to the believer. So believe the answer will come. It will.
* Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit.
* Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.
Better than Humour?
"A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs, jolted by every pebble in the road." --Henry Ward Beecher
Motivational/Spiritual speakers can be boring, monotonously earnest. Comedy is wisdom, dancing. But the quote above brings to mind people who are in a stupour, who use humour to survive, who lack imagination and aspiration and so never progress. Is humour incompatible with romantic heroism?
* If you can look into the mirror without laughter, you have no sense of humor. --Unknown
* Comedy is tragedy plus time. --Carol Burnett
* Humor is emotional chaos remembered in tranquility. --James Thurber
* Like a welcome summer rain, humor may suddenly cleanse and cool the earth, the air and you. --Langston Hughes
* Laughter sets the spirit free to move through even the most tragic of circumstances. It helps us shake our heads clear, get our feet back under us, restoring our sense of balance and purpose. Humor is integral to our peace of mind and to our ability to go beyond survival.
--Captain Gerald Coffee, POW in Vietnam for seven years
* Humor is an affirmation of dignity, a declaration of man's superiority to all that befalls him. --Romain Gary
* Imagination was given to man to compensate him for what he isn't. A sense of humor was provided to console him for what he is. --Horace Walpole
* A Craftsman polishes his work, but a Comedian polishes his errors.
--Tony Follari Comedian
*A bore is someone who opens his mouth and puts his feats in it.
*Every hero becomes a bore. --Ralph Waldo Emerson
In the battle of life one has to learn to be a hero. Heroism is not egoism.
It is an expression of the native dignity of the ego wedded to the Infinite
Normal people worry me.
The meaning of life is to live it.
Joshua's Henry Miller quote: Life is meant to be lived, drunkenly, passionately, serenely, ....
Live as though Christ died yesterday, rose from the grave today, and is
coming back tomorrow.
We turn to God for help when our foundations are shaking only to learn that
it is God shaking them.
The winds of God are always blowing, but you must set the sails.
Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than going to the
garage makes you a car
--Laurence J. Peter
For true love is inexhaustible; the more you give, the more you have. And if
you go to draw at the true fountainhead, the more water you draw, the more
abundant is its flow.
--Antoine de Saint-Exupery
A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live
is to be slowly born.
--Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you
love what you are doing, you will be successful.
--Albert Schweitzer (01/14/1875-1965)
The tragedy of life is what dies inside a man while he lives.
--Albert Schweitzer (01/14/1875-1965)
We love our habits more than our income, often more than our life.
Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true
Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like
you've never been hurt and live like it's heaven on Earth.
Infinite love is who we really are and who we sometimes refuse to be. This refusal is our most essential tension. --David Deida
Argue for your limitations and they're yours. --Richard Bach, from Illusions
My resources[/chores/demands] love me, and I love them, for they are so understanding, they want to be fulfilled but they don't complain, they prefer that I fulfill the most urgent and important resources first - including computer.